Beautiful lengths, photo a day, day 5

Hello all,

I hope you all had a wonderful weekend!

So, Day 5 is my going out hair.  To be honest, I've never been one for super fancy hairstyles; my going out hairstyle is very similar to my everyday styles; I just tend to make sure it's brushed and clean:

As you can see nothing super fancy!

Stay tuned for day 6, my hair-do of the day


Beautiful lengths photo a day, day 3

Hello all!

It is time for day 3: flashback! 

Haha, this was when I was in a musical/choir special that was called "British Invasion".  We sang songs in the 60s.  This was the last time I made my big chop 3-4 years ago from where it is now to a 60s-ish bob.  I think it's interesting to see the progress that I've made.

And that is my little brother beside me; we're a little crazy.

Stay tuned for day 4: Going out hair


Beautiful lengths photo a day, day 2

Hello all!

Okay, it's time for my photo a day project! Day 2 is Celeb hair you love. Now, before we start this off, I'm going to start by saying there is no celebrity that I like enough to put on this blog.  Regardless of their awesome, salon perfected, product impregnated hair.  BUT in an effort to keep in the spirit of the photo a day I settled on someone I didn't know anything about, which is good because then I can admire their hair without feeling conflicted about their personalities. 

Lara Lieto is a model that I know absolutely nothing about, but she has really really pretty long hair: 
This is about the length that I'm hoping for.  I know that a lot of people wouldn't like how crazy it looks, but I personally love the wildness of it.  I also love the fact that there aren't really any noticeable layers; she's managed to, in a world of upkeep and specific looks, take a very traditional hairstyle and make it look absolutely stunning.

Stay tuned for day 3: Hair flashback, which should be pretty funny.


In an effort to get back into blogging after the holidays

Hello all!

Yes, I know, I bombed on yet another Friday Feature, but it's been busy, so I'm going to use that as an excuse for as long as I can.

I've also decided that, because I don't want to get into the habit of making excuses for my Friday Features, I'm going to start a major blogging project.

I read Hair Romance which is really fun hair blog that has a lot of cool ideas, and looking through her old posts and came across this lovely gem.  It's a 30 day, photo a day challenge that I think would be a great way to get myself back into the groove of posting more often.  I can't promise that I'm going to do all of them, like take a stranger's photo, but I'll do something similar:

*UPDATE* Since a lot of these are becoming somewhat redundant; I'm going to revamp the rest of my photos to suit my blog a little better.

  1. Hair self portrait
  2. Celeb hair you love 
  3. Hair flashback 
  4. Going out hair 
  5. Hair you adore 
  6. Your hair-do today 
  7. Best hair moment 
  8. Your fave hair accessory 
  9. Straight hair 
  10. Long hair 
  11. Dream hair 
  12. You mom's hair 
  13. Weekend hair 
  14. Stranger's hair - Probably changed to a coworkers hair
  15. Favorite short 'do 
  16. Curly hair 
  17. Hair Swissssshhh
  18. Worst hair moment 
  19. Straight of out the shower hair 
  20. Your hair as a child 
  21. Friend's hair 
  22. Hair product you used today 
  23. Bed head 
  24. You hair at 8pm 
  25. Hair don't (hair you really don't like) 
  26. Flashback: your hair as a teen 
  27. Where you did your hair today 
  28. Daily hair routine 
  29. Work/school hair 
  30. Donated hair - I don't have any photos of my hair the times that I've donated it, so I probably won't do anything like that, not sure what I'll change it to yet
So without further ado, day 1: hair self portrait: 
My hair is now officially down to my hips; the ends are red from henna as it gradually goes back my natural brown as you move up the length.

The waves are natural, my hair can't make up it's mind; it goes from stick straight to wavy to stick straight again. Go figure. 

Tomorrow: My favorite celebrity hair! 


A very merry Christmas

Just want to wish you all a wonderful merry Christmas.  This is such an amazing time of year, and I can't even begin to express to incredible things that God has done in my life and in others through His Son. 

Luke 2:1-20
In those days Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world.(This was the first census that took place while Quirinius was governor of Syria. And everyone went to their own town to register.
So Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David. He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child. While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.
And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. 10 But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.11 Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. 12 This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”
13 Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying,
14 “Glory to God in the highest heaven,
    and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”
15 When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, “Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.”
16 So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. 17 When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, 18 and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them. 19 But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. 20 The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen, which were just as they had been told.



No Friday Feature

I didn't get to the Friday Feature! I just ran out of time; it's been so busy here lately, and I'm kinda going crazy trying to get in our Christmas gifts and get them wrapped and put in the right places, and I'm missing about 8 presents yet because the company that I ordered my shea butter and containers from has STILL not shipped me my entire order, so I can't assemble the lotions for my sisters, and I'm going to seriously chew out someone's butt if my order isn't shipped by the end of today.


So I'm thinking that the Friday Feature will be a little hit and miss until the holiday season is over.  I'm sorry.

I drew this doggy for you to help make it better: 


A moment of silence

A moment of silence to recognize the pain and the broken hearts of the families that have suffered the loss of their children and family.  I cannot imagine the hurt, nor the disbelief and the anger.  I pray that each family will find healing and peace in the midst of this terrible chaos and turmoil. 

Though I don't know you; though you can't see
Invisible arms of our prayers around you be. 
To support you in this time of loss 
Peace dissolved to hate and chaos. 

I promise you, and will strive here now
To pray for your heart; for it to heal somehow. 
Though you will never forget, I hope you might heal,
Though I know I can never know the pain that you feel. 

I want you to know, even though you can't see 
The love that I give, to you from me. 


Well I did it...I opened up a DeviantArt account

Hello all,

I decided to *cringe* actually start using my deviant art account.


Okay, it's not really that bad, as I stated in my journal post there, I don't know that my stuff is worth looking at, but I need a way to make sure I don't lose it, so I decided to start posting.  Take a look at my profile, tell me what you think, all that jazz.



Friday Feature Fun!

Miss Ida is a Youtuber that I have been following for a couple years now; I love her hairstyles because of the uniqueness of them and how easy she makes them look!  Here's some fun info about our Friday Feature:

Name: Ida 

Hair character/type: Straight, fine, plentiful.

Natural hair color: Some sort of blonde. Seems that I get lighter over the years.

Starting length (if growing): Shoulders.

Current length:  Almost knee length.

Are you currently growing your length or maintaining?  If growing, how long have you been growing your hair?  If maintaining, what is it about your current length that makes you happy?: I will grow until knee length, then I will maintain for a while to see if I can get my hemline to thicken up a bit. I have not maintained since I started growing about 10 years ago.

As a fellow hairaholic I find it very interesting to hear what exactly about hair it is that others find fascinating.  What started your interest/obsession with hair?: I just decided that I wanted to try long hair again. I had reasonably long hair for a while as a little girl, but after a period of about 10 years with shorter hair in all kinds of cuts and colors, I wanted to try something new.

As with any hobby, there is always something that irks us just a little bit. What are some of your frustrations/pet peeves as a person with a hair hobby, be your hair long or short? (i.e. nasty comments, getting stuck in doors, hard to take care of, styling, etc.etc.): I can't really think of anything that is frustrating or such about wearing long hair. I wear my hair up 99% the time. Oh, one thing - all the loose hairs over my apartment that gets stuck EVERYWHERE - you really need to vacuum a lot more often! And that hair-getting-stuck-between-the-buttocks-thing. I recommend all long hairs to invest in a hair trap for the shower drain, it will really make a difference when it comes to the interval of shower drain cleaning you need to do.....

If money, damage, social stigma, etc. where not a factor, what is the one thing you would love to to try out?: Dreads for a night. Dip dye, however I plan to try this out sometime I'm already scheduled for a trim.

What do you love about your hair: The color. The silkiness. The shine.

What do you hate about your hair: The silkiness. Makes it hard to keep it up. The new growth that makes a shaggy halo after a couple of hours.

What’s something you like to do as a “treat” to your hair?: Hennaing the roots and my yearly trim. Just because my hair dresser LOVES my hair and I really like the scalp massages she provides.

What are your favorite products?/What are you currently using?: Ehm. I have about 10 different conditioners in my shower (junkie!) But my hair is not particularly fond of anything special at the moment. Most conditioners work and I do not use more then shampoo + conditioner at the moment. It seems that my hair is very undamaged and will balk severely if I try to put more in it.

What’s your hair care routine? (In a nutshell; I know most of us have pretty extensive hair care regimes): Evening, non-wash night: Take it down, comb it, spritz plain water on it, comb it, put up in sleep bun (damp bunning, love it). Evening wash night: Take it down, comb it, wash it, put in towel to dry for 20 min, comb it, let air dry for 5 min, put it up in sleep bun. Morning: Take it down, comb it, put it up in an updo. Every month: Henna roots. 

Many of us have one thing that we will never, ever do to our hair no matter what (i.e., bleach, curl, straighten, color) what is that one thing for you?: I don't consider curling it due to the sheer time and that my hair don't hold curls well.

If you have a favorite hairstyle, what is it?: BIG BUNS!

What is the best piece of advice you've ever received regarding taking care of hair?: Put it up and forget about it. Really, it works. Second would be: Try one new thing at the time. It is really hard to pin point successes or failures otherwise.

Links to your blog/youtube/website: http://www.youtube.com/user/4ypn0tica


Friday Feature Fun!

Hello all! It's that time of the week again, yay!

This week I convinced my mummy to be my model and I did a variation on what TorrinPaige (youtube) calls the Seraphim Kiss based off of this lovely photo by Jaramatography on Deviantart.

I like her style because it works for really thick hair and she gets the volume in a really unique way.  Since my mom and I don't have hair that would put Rapunzel to shame, I decided to revamp it for our hair.

After that I decided to create a hairdo that was similar the Memoirs of a Geisha hairstyle that Hatsumomo wears the very first time we see her character.  I vouched not to add a lot of teasing and volume to the sides of the hair because I want to create a series of hairstyles that are applicable to everyday life.  I think the final result looks really good and would work great as a work or even night out style depending.



No Friday Feature for the Holidays

Hello all, just a quick post to let you know I have fallen behind slightly because of the holidays, so we will be back on track on Friday with another tutorial; I'm going to tackle Hatsumomo's updo, which after looking at it and looking at the Dance Recital updo, they are very similar, so we are going to group those into one interpretation.

And! I also want to tackle a hairstyle I saw TorrinPaige from Youtube do called the Seraphim Kiss, which is based off of the following photo. My version is going to be a little different as I interpret it differently, but I think that's the awesomeness of these tutorials; everyone will give you their version of something so you get a lot of different ideas and you can pick and choose which will work for you.

I will be doing all three of these hairstyles on my mummy, who is a longhair and has been kind enough to offer herself up as a model; after I asked because I love working with her hair and cause she's my favorite :).  So lot's of exciting hairstyles to introduce to you! I'm hoping to release these both next Friday, because on the 7th, we have a new Feature!

That's all for now, sorry again for falling behind, but I'm sure you can all relate with Turkey Day!  Have a wonderful rest of your week and I will write soon!


Friday Feature Fun!

Hello all,

Well it's still technically Friday - sorry this is so late in getting out; editing took a little longer than I had meant and the first time that I tried to record this my camera stopped in the middle.  Blargh.

Well!  As promised, my first installment of hair tutorials.  These following two techniques are very similar, but they "wear" throughout the day very differently.  I apply these two techniques in three different ways; a full updo, half up and a variation of the updo.

I hope you enjoy!  Next week I'm starting my series of Memoirs of a Geisha hairstyles, hope you enjoy! *UPDATE* There might also be a bonus hairstyle depending on how I feel :) I've been inspired to do something rope braid and bohemian.


Coming soon: hairstyle tutorials!

I'm tired of no pictures in this blog.  It's boring.  Therefore! I shall change it.

I've decided that I'm going to start adding hair tutorials to my blog, I don't really do a lot of braids because of my layers, but I am a black belt in hairsticks. :) So, below I'm going to post a number of hairstyles I'm going to feature in the coming weeks, and if you have a request you are welcome to message me and ask.  I may not be able to do all of them, but I have a plethora of youtubers I follow that I can refer you too if I'm not up for the challenge.

I'd like to start off with my go-to hairstyles:

  • Flipped half up Hairstyles  
  • Buns for people with layered hair
  • One stick only hairstyles

After that, I would like to start featuring some special styles from various movies that I love.  I'm going to start off with Memoirs of a Geisha: 

Other movies that will be included in my list will be:
  • Vanity Fair 
  • Sense and Sensibility 
  • Duches (maybe) 
  • Princess Bride
  • A Knight's Tale 
  • Ever After 
  • Tenant of Wildfell hall
  • Lord of the Rings 
  • Star Wars (maybe) 
I'm sure there are others that I have spaced/forgotten at this moment, but this is a good start up list.  I will not be doing any crazy, wacky, costume-day hairstyle.  My goal is to take the hairstyles in these movies and to create a version that is easy to do at home, hair-friendly and applicable to everyday style and life. 

Feel free to comment or request more, and I'll see what I can do! Like I said before, I am no expert with braids and some of these will require a model instead of working on it with my own hair; I'm more than happy to refer you to someone who can execute a request if I can not.  


Adventures in Shea Butter!

Hello all,

Well I haven't talked a whole lot about this, but my mom and I are in the process of starting a new business.  I want to create a line of skin and hair care products that focus on healing qualities.  We still have a lot of planning, and creating and formulating to do, but I decided to go out on a whim and buy some unrefined shea butter and whip it up to see what would happen.  I didn't really have time to melt it down properly, but just did a quick mix.

I took 1 pound of raw shea butter, about 1/4 cup olive oil and 2 tablespoons of coconut oil, made sure the shea butter was soft enough to mix, threw it into my food processor and mixed it for about 1 minute.  It came out a lot stiffer than I would like, but I was out of coconut oil and I didn't want anymore olive oil in my mixture.

The results, it was a very hearty butter than I was able to split among three people and they will have plenty to last until I get more shea butter.  Very moisturizing, but not a good hair oil; I tried using it an it's just too stiff for my hair, I'm going to stick with pure coconut oil.  There were tiny granules in it that I'm not sure were the results of not melting it or it nor being refined, I'm not sure, so I think I'll take the butter I have at home and remelt it and then whip it back up to see if that gets rid of them.  If not I'll purchase the refined shea butter and give it a shot.


Friday Feature Fun!

Time for our Friday Feature!

Stephanie is awesome, I have never had the pleasure of meeting her in person, but I've looked on her site at her styles, and her general attitude has always been fun and pleasant and whenever I've bugged her about a hairstyle I'm curious about, she has always been kind and taken time out of her busy schedule to talk with me.  Also, I'm insanely jealous of her hair.  Enjoy! 

Name: Stephanie

Hair character/type: 2c or 3a/M/iii (note: loose curls, medium thickness strands, and a ton of it)

Natural hair color: Same as it is now, kind of indeterminate.  Brownish blonde?

Starting length (if growing): About 22” way back in the day

Current length:  58”

Are you currently growing your length or maintaining?  If growing, how long have you been growing your hair?  If maintaining, what is it about your current length that makes you happy?:  I started growing my hair out about 11 years ago, but for four years during college I mostly just maintained it.  My hair is definitely still growing (albeit slowly), but I’m not actively trying to grow it out anymore.  I’m considering cutting 10 inches or so off in a few months since it’s getting a bit much to manage, and classic length was my favorite.  I enjoy being able to do really extreme styles with this length, but classic was best for certain updos and was less annoying to wear down.

As a fellow hairaholic I find it very interesting to hear what exactly about hair it is that others find fascinating.  What started your interest/obsession with hair?: When I was 13, I saw Star Wars for the first time and was fascinated by Leia’s hair.  I thought, “Hey, I can do that.”  I think long hair is beautiful, I love how it feels, and I enjoy being able to do different things with it.  I also enjoy having long hair for one of the same reasons that I enjoy archery; both make me feel a little bit like a time-traveller, participating in something that is thousands of years old.  Long hair has a timeless, classic quality to it, andI enjoy history (particularly medieval times) very much.  Having long hair gives me a sense of kinship with another age.

As with any hobby, there is always something that irks us just a little bit. What are some of your frustrations/pet peeves as a person with a hair hobby, be your hair long or short? (i.e. nasty comments, getting stuck in doors, hard to take care of, styling, etc.etc.):  Long hair does get in the way if it’s down, there just isn't a way around it.  I’ve caught it on other people, doors, seat belts, you name it.  Probably the most irksome thing, though, is that people tend to treat long hair like public property.  I don’t mind if someone wants to talk about it, or even if they ask nicely if they can touch it, but I do NOT enjoy it when strangers walk up and just start playing with my hair.  I like my personal space!

If money, damage, social stigma, etc. where not a factor, what is the one thing you would love to to try out?:  I haven’t had straight hair since I was 12, so that would be nice to try, and it would be fun to dye it just for a day.  In general, though, I’m pretty content with my current state.

What do you love about your hair: Pretty much everything!  I like that it’s very thick and curly.

What do you hate about your hair:  I don’t really hate anything about it, but I guess it would be nice if the color made up its mind on whether it’s brown or blonde.

What’s something you like to do as a “treat” to your hair?: Can’t say that I really do anything special for it.

What are your favorite products?/What are you currently using?:  I use whatever shampoo and conditioner are on sale, for the most part.  I do like Naturelle Hypo-Allergenic Styling Gel (http://www.sallybeauty.com/allergenic-gel/SBS-623476,default,pd.html); several of my friends have severe allergies, so I make sure to use this if I’m going to be spending time with them.  Money is always an issue for me, so I don’t buy any expensive products.

What’s your hair care routine? (In a nutshell; I know most of us have pretty extensive hair care regimes): Mine is very simple.  I wash it every other night (sometimes every third night) with whatever’s in the shower.  I do use a LOT of conditioner.  Since my hair is so curly, I only detangle it in the shower, using a wide-toothed bone comb (http://hairsense.com/bone_combs.php), which is actually made out of resin despite the name.  The combs don’t have the rough seam that plastic combs do, so it doesn’t catch or tear the hair.  I let my hair dry overnight by draping off the end of the bed.

Many of us have one thing that we will never, ever do to our hair no matter what (i.e., bleach, curl, straighten, color) what is that one thing for you?: All of the above, honestly.  I’m a big fan of benign neglect: if I leave my hair alone, it behaves itself.

If you have a favorite hairstyle, what is it?:  Hard to choose, since I do so many!  I love braids of all kinds.  My go-to style for when I don’t want to spend time on my hair is a single braid, and it’ll hold up to just about anything.  I love experimenting with movie hairstyles, though I haven’t had the time for anything too elaborate lately.

What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received regarding taking care of hair?:  Don’t mess with it!  People feel like they have to be constantly altering their hair’s curl/straightness, color, style, etc., and all of that causes damage.  

Links to your blog/youtube/website: 
My website (pretty much never updated anymore, sadly) is: http://imaginary-styles.iwarp.com, and my blog (not hair-related) is: http://quoththegirl.wordpress.com.

Thank you again, Stephanie for your time and for sharing a little bit about yourself!  More to come on awesome people later! 


Random Thoughts. Boring, Skip to end for interesting stuff.

Hello all!

Random thoughts part: (Skip this if you don't want to be bored with random hair thoughts.) I have been having a crazy difficult time with my hair lately; it's not been behaving correctly and I do recall that when I finally made it past waist length last time it did the same exact thing, but ended up cutting it all off because I was hating how it was acting.

NOT AGAIN!!   I decided to look at my routine and to compare and see what the issues were so I didn't do the same thing.  Back then, I was only washing once a week, which I will absolutely never do again, right now I was trying to stretch washes every 4-5 days.  So perhaps a little bit of oil buildup is causing issues. Before, I was using Giovanni, I am using Giovanni right now.  Of course, this time of year does cause quite a bit of static and such.

Not a whole lot of things happening right now that would cause my hair to misbehave other than perhaps I'm trying to baby it too much? I know that sounds weird, but I look online at all these amazing haired gurus on YouTube  and they wash their hair everyday, style it heat it and it looks great!  Which got me thinking...is the natural hype really worth it for my hair type?

Thinking about it, and looking on various blogs, there is tons of natural hair care information for people with curly hair and textured hair, but not so much for people with longer straight hair.  Now, I'm not talking just hair care, I'm talking SLS free natural hair care; that type of thing.  And there isn't a lot of information for people with long, straight hair.  I mean, there is, but not really...*sigh* okay this made so much more sense in my head!

Breaking my jarble brain down: 1. Hair is not behaving with natural regime. 2. Can't find a lot of people who have a natural hair care breakdown for straight hair. 3. Bottom line; I'm going back to my old routine.  Sort of.

Every single time I have ever gone crazy with my hair routine, my hair starts to freak out.  I tried the shampoo bars; just didn't work and very expensive.  Tried WEN only, and my hair got oily and staticky.  Tried to stretch washings with Giovanni, and it falls flat.  The reason I'm growing out my hair is to enjoy it down, not to keep it up and brag about how little I wash it and how little chemicals I put on it.  When you think about it, it's all chemical, it's just a matter of where your chemical comes from.  So, I am going to stop freaking out about it, because honestly, I used to have super long hair when I was younger and shampooed and washed everyday with cheapo Suave and it looked great.  If my baby long hair head could deal with it then, then it can certainly deal with it now!  Plus that, I just like having a schedule.  I really do; I am a list maker and having a list for what I'm going to do with my head keeps me from freaking out on it.

So I went back to my Suave Almond and Shea Butter.  I'm going to oil the night before I wash, and wash on specific days instead of whenever.  I also bought some raw Shea butter bulk and I'm going to whip it up and use that on my hair and skin too.  And yes, Suave has SLS, but I used it for years before I went crazy on my routine and it was fine, and my hair likes it.  I know I said I wouldn't go back, but seriously I have to do something or I'm going to cut off all my hair.

I know that this doesn't really matter to anyone but myself, but this is a hair blog, so darn it I'm going to write about hair!!

Interesting stuff: I came across a really cool blog yesterday; this blogger is what I wish I was; an actual scientific resource for people interested in hair information. The Natural haven Bloom has some really informative articles on the breakdown of hair care products and its impact on your hair health.  I highly recommend going to this website if you have any questions regarding pH balance of products, SLS breakdowns, hair health, etc. etc.

So yeah, that's the interesting stuff.  Sorry this is a random and probably very boring post, but I wanted to get it all out there more for my own benefit than anything.  It was about four years ago that I got fed up and quit and cut it all short and I just really don't want to do that again, so I'm trying to create a breadcrumb trail of improvement so I can track my progress.


General hair thoughts

Hello all!

I have been noticing that I'm needing to change up my hair routine just a little bit; I've been noticing a huge increase in static, which I'm sure you're tired about me lamenting, and because of that I've been oiling more heavily which means I can't go as long between washing.  I've pretty much decided that this is probably because of one of two things: either it's because I'm showering at night now or because I dyed it.

SO!  I've done a deep treatment and will continue to do so on a biweekly basis or when I have time and today I washed my hair in the morning instead of night today.  I'm hoping that this will cut out the static and maybe make it so I can stretch my washings again, but I've been thinking about that.  Why exactly am I trying to stretch my washings?  Well, I know there are some actual legitimate reasons, those being to save money since my hair products are more expensive, to keep my hair healthy and not dry, takes up less time, things like that.  But I also know that part of it is because I feel like I should be stretching them as much as possible for some unknown reason that I can't pinpoint.  Right now, I wash it, wait four days and wash it again, but this morning I washed it after only three days and as ridiculous as it sounds I feel guilty for it!  How dumb is that?! I am feeling guilty because I chose to wash my hair when it needed it.  If I hadn't I would have oiled it down, put it up and not felt very good about my hair. I chose to do something because I wanted to look good with my hair.

This is reason why I cut it last time, because I was becoming slave to my hair routine and forgetting that it was there for myself, not myself there for it.  I like obsessing over my hair, but I'm recognizing that I'm starting to get antsy and frustrated with it because I'm trying to do everything in such a particular way that I am loosing what the whole point of long hair is; as something special for myself.

So I'm going to try doing something different.  Even though I take my showers at night, I'm going to wash my hair in the mornings and I'm not going to obsess on how often; when my hair looks like it needs it, then I'll wash it.  I'm not going to freak out because I'm washing it every three days instead of every four or five or seven or one or whatever.  It's my hair that I have for myself and it's not the other way around!

I don't know if anyone else has ever dealt with these issues or not, but it would be awesome to get input.  Honestly, I know that our hair is a lot more able to deal with stuff than we give it credit for.  I know some people that can wash every single day and not have an issue; never give it special treatments or use hairspray or tease or what have you and their hair is fine.  I'm going to try and find a better balance.  My husband reminds me all the time that I'm an extremist; I'm always hot or cold, black or white, and I just can't do that anymore.

Well, that was a boring post, but I wanted to get my feelings out there; it's time to stop freaking out on something so trivial and just enjoy it for what it is.  I will still give my hair treatments and oiling, but I'm not going to obsess on the level that I have been lately.

Okay, all done!  As always, I would love input or additional thoughts if you have any or if you've found a way to not obsess haha :) Healthy hair obsessions are okay, but not when they start controlling you.


Homemade hair masque: Avocado banana

Hello all,

Well I have been dealing with a huge amount of static lately and I know some of it was due to the fact that I broke down and used a box dye and another part was that the WEN that I was using just isn't a good regular use product for me, but I wasn't able to get rid of it entirely.  I decided to try a hair masque that I made me for mom last week to see if it would help.                                                            

Avocado Banana Hair Masque
1 Avocado
1 Banana
2 Big spoonfuls of honey
1 Spoonful of mayo or plain yogurt
Drizzle of olive oil

I put all of these ingredients in a food processor and blended it until it was yogurt consistency.  Then, I applied it to my hair which I had oiled earlier in the day.  It actually felt really really good going on!  Once I got it all mushed up on my head as best as I could get it and pushed it in my hair, I wrapped it up in a plastic bag and put a towel over that and let it sit for almost an hour.

Washing it out was a bit tricky; there were small bits of either avocado or banana that didn't get blended (they were dandruff size) and those wouldn't rinse out very well, but I did the best I could and shampooed and conditioned as normal.   I towel dried it, combed, applied my anti frizz and then flung over my pillow and went to bed.

I really, really like how my hair feels today; it's really soft and has body and is very shiny, but like everything out there there were a few cons: I couldn't get those itty bitty pieces out of my hair so I had to wait until it was dry and shake them loose; otherwise it would have looked like I had dandruff.  Next time, I will dunk my entire head in a bin full of water before I start my normal rinsing/washing process.  The only other con I found was that after a while you got the old banana smell while it was on your head, but when I rinsed it off it was fine.

Also be aware that if you do this treatment you are getting protein from almost everything in the masque so your hair will feel not as malleable.  This will go away once it's dry, just use caution while you're combing your hair out, and rinse rinse rinse otherwise you'll have avocado bits in your hair.

There you have it!  I will keep you updated as to whether this got rid of the static.



The pros and cons of 'cones

I decided to write about my opinion concerning silicone in today's conditioner.  Most commercial conditioners, and even some of the less well known conditioners have a product in it that ends in "cone".  This means it is a silicone of some kind. Today's conditioners use this 'cone' product to help give your hair slip.  It also boasts to help hide splits and damage.

There are basically two different schools of thought concerning silicones in hair products; you are either okay with them, or you are against them.  There are some people that fall in the middle, but for the most part hair people tend to lean one way or another.

I am part of the former group.  I am completely, 100% in favor of silicones for my hair.  I think this is the biggest issue we run into.  So many people are either one way or the other because it works for their hair, but they forget to take into consideration that their hair care will most likely (note, I'm saying most likely, not even possibly, or perhaps) not work for another person.  That's because each of us are so unique and different is too many ways to count that we couldn't possibly assume that a regime that has been formulated specifically for one individual could work for another.  It just doesn't go that way.

For example, my sister with beautiful, thick, black, wavy hair (think this - I'm not kidding....*jealous*) and she washes her hair everyday, uses heat, brushes, hairspray, SLS shampoos, cone conditioners and I can't find a single split in her hair.  BUT a women with delicate, long curly hair would probably have a heart attack if she were to try using those methods I stated above.  Now, granted, there are many things that will work for a person, like oiling hair, but to be fair let's just assume from now on, in this post, I'm talking about my personal hair needs only.

I have tried to go without cones, I tried using the shampoo bars with aloe gel, vinegar, honey, other humectant like products and I even tried a cone free Giovanni conditioner and I just couldn't get past the static, and the constant tangling.  I just couldn't deal with it.  So I had to switch back.  Honestly, I could probably go back to an SLS shampoo too and be fine, but knowing how sensitive the rest of my body is to it, I've voted to never try it again.

Having been both cone full and cone free, I've decided to write out a pros and cons list based off my experience.

Pros to cone free:
More natural approach
Doesn't "hide" your hair behind product
Doesn't build up on your scalp as quickly
Allows you see more damage for Search and Destroying (also known as dusting, which is just putting your ends up against a light and trimming the splits off to help maintain healthy hair.)
If you're using the CO method you won't need to clarify as often

Cons to cone free:
Hair will not have as much slip, so it will tangle more easily
Hard to find a product without cones that isn't expensive (I know there are some cheaper products out there like Vo5, but I don't like it.)
Less shine

These are just the main things that I've noticed.  Honestly, I've never viewed cones like I have SLS; I haven't really found a whole lot on them that could cause me a huge harm.  That is just my opinion though, and I know a lot of people have found that a cone free lifestyle is absolutely best for them.

I follow a youtube guru called "torrinpaige"  and she has a post on using cones in her hair and she and I share much of the same opinion.

On the other hand, if you visit "loepsie" she is cone free and has very lovely hair as well.

It just depends on your hair and who you are.  I like cones, I live in a dry climate and they work well for me, but it all depends on you and your hair!


WEN hair care review

Hello there! 

Well I know it's been forever and I think it's high time for a super girly, silly hair product review.

If you at all interested in taking care of your hair then I'm you've either heard, used, seen, or been told about Wen hair care by Chaz Dean. 

Straight from the website, it reads: WEN® Cleansing Conditioner is a revolutionary new concept in hair care. A 5-in-1 formula, this one product takes the place of your shampoo, conditioner, deep conditioner, de-tangler and leave-in conditioner. It cleanses hair thoroughly but without lathering and all the harsh ingredients that may be found in ordinary shampoos—it is designed so it won't strip your hair and scalp of their natural oils. Your hair is left with sheen, moisture, manageability and better color retention.

Now, I've never been one for gimmicky products, especially when they are as ridiculously expensive as WEN is, but my mom let have one of her bottles of Sweet Almond Mint so I decided to try it.  Keep in mind this was a year ago, around this exact time actually.  I also have only used the cleansing conditioner because I don't use any other products in my hair other than the Giovanni anti frizz and natural oils for conditioning. 

Also, keep in mind that this WEN product is just someone monopolizing on an already very popular washing method; CO - or conditioner only.  The concept is that when you wash with only conditioner, many people prefer 'cone free conditioners, you will not strip your hair of its natural oils like you would with shampoo.  I have never been able to use the CO method; and my hair HATES being without 'cones, which is another topic I'll address later and I for some reason, even with using a cone free conditioner, could never get my hair to acclimate   It also tended to get really greasy and full of static at the same time, so I took it as a hint and dropped the CO method.  So this concept is not new, this company just decided to make money off of it.  And honestly, the product is a good product and if you use it sparingly, the price isn't that bad.  I've managed to make my wen bottle last about 6 months. 

The first time I used it was after using bar soaps and small amounts of conditioner at the end of my wash, so I immediately freaked out with the amount of slick I was feeling.  When I rinsed it out, however, I didn't notice any extra greasies, which was good because at first I thought that the product wasn't really going to clean it was just going to slick my hair to an oblivion.  During the wash, I actually diluted it much as I do with any conditioner; in my old shampoo bottle with water, shake and pour over my head.  When I was massaging it into my scalp per instructions, I noticed a nice clean smell and feeling; I think they put menthol or tea tree oil in their product.

After towel drying, combing was a breeze, but there was an incredible about of hair shed, which was one of the biggest online complaints.  I wasn't too worried about this because when you're using a product that doesn't have any serious cleaners in it you're going to need to massage it in and rinse well, which is going to loose a lot of already loose hair and make it come out.  I still took care to note how much I lost though, just to keep track. 

When my hair was dry, I loved it; it was soft and smooth, and just overall felt good. 

So, for the pros: 
Rich, creamy mixture
Smells good
Silky and smooth hair as result

Now the bad parts: 
I have tried using WEN as my only cleanser without any other cleanser and I found that my hair was getting oily really fast and my scalp was starting to itch.  I would not recommend this product by itself.  I have a longhair friend who uses it with her shampoo first and then uses the WEN like a deep conditioner every time she washes, so I decided to try this as well and see if that would remedy my issue. 

It did, yay! BUT, it also gave me an INCREDIBLE amount of static, which, if you know anything about me, I hate hate hate hate hate hate....did I mention I HATE static??  UGH, it was awful!  So I oiled down my hair every morning to keep it tamed.

it's also really expensive, and the problem with going through the actual WEN website is that they force you into one of those, "buy this product and unless you cancel we'll send you more and charge you more."  I just don't go through WEN that fast, so I tried talking to customer service and they wouldn't offer me an alternative.  I did discover, however, that Sephora's website sells the Sweet Almond Mint online as a one-time purchase, so I bought from them and gave them glowing reviews. 

So for the cons: 
Can potentially make your hair really staticky 
Can make scalp itch and greasy if used exclusively
You lose a lot of hair per washing

My final opinions?  I still like WEN, because when I need a deep cleaning conditioner I can use it without any shampoo once in a while, or if I need to wash my hair two days in a row (I typically only wash it every 3 or 4 days) this is a great way to clean without stripping your oils.  However, as much as I thought I would like using this product regularly, I'm just much more happy with my Giovanni products; they keep my hair clean without drying it out and I have NEVER, ever experienced static while using it. 

If you have the money, I would recommend getting a bottle as a nice deep cleaner without having to oil the night before, but it's not a product that I think one couldn't live without.  There are many, cheaper and nice conditioners out there than can be used instead. 

Okay, all done, but as a bonus, I curlformed my hair again and dressed up 1940s style for a work program, but I thought I would share my hair results with you, since they looked pretty good: 
I put this one in a black and white format because you couldn't tell my hair from my sweater.

Candid photo of me putting on lipgloss...lovely.  At any rate, even though I'm bent forward a bit, this gives you a good idea of the length when it's curled and the red.  Oh! I died my hair red again; I'll post about that later on.


First Friday Feature Fun! #1

Alrighty, here it is: Feature Friday! Our first reader is miss Sarah, I hope you enjoy! 

Name: Sarah (ibraidhair.wordpress.com)

Hair character/type:
natural curly, medium/coarse texture, medium-thick, dry, prone to split

Natural hair color: dark brown with reddish highlights

Starting length (if growing): hmmm.... It hasn't been above my shoulders since I was a
toddler.  When I started growing with purpose, it was 28" I believe (a couple inches above my waist).

Current length:  about 4

Are you currently growing your length or maintaining?  If growing, how long have you been growing your hair?  If maintaining, what is it about your current length that makes you happy?: Kind of both. My hair is so prone to breakage that I have to work pretty hard just to maintain this
length. If I gain a little in the process, I'm happy.  I've always liked hip-length hair on other women and thought it was the most attractive length.

As a fellow hairaholic I find it very interesting to hear what exactly about hair it is that others find fascinating.  What started your interest/obsession with hair?:
My parents both wanted my hair long when I was growing up (my mom has long hair also). My favorite dolls were always the ones with hair I could style. It's been a life-long thing for me. I became obsessed with my own hair when I was 20 years old. I was desperate for new styling ideas and began searching the internet. I came across a website dedicated to long-haired women, with a forum full of amazing people (some with floor-length hair!) who had a wealth of knowledge. I haven't been the same since. :)

As with any hobby, there is always something that irks us just a little bit. What are some of your frustrations/pet peeves as a person with a hair hobby, be your hair long or short? (i.e. nasty comments, getting stuck in doors, hard to take care of, styling, etc.etc.):
Because I have a hair hobby, I get asked a lot of questions from people wanting advice on hair care, styling, etc. It really irritates me when people ask my advice over and over and over, and never actually do anything I recommend.

If money, damage, social stigma, etc. where not a factor, what is the one thing you would love to to try out?: Coloring my hair bright
fiery red.

What do you love about your hair: the color, the length, and the curls... I really just
 have learned to love my hair the way it is.

What do you hate about your hair:
I have a love/hate relationship with my curls. I really do love my curls and I would be devastated if they suddenly started going away! But at the same time, I can't help getting frustrated because it makes it so much harder to style my hair and keep it healthy. Also, it makes my hair very unpredictable.

What’s something you like to do as a “treat” to your hair?: deep conditioning tre
atment with avocado

What are your favorite products?:
My favorite is probably raw shea butter, it's super conditioning for my extremely dry ends. (and I don't have to worry about anyone changing the formulation! lol)

What are you currently using?: Yes to Carrots Shampoo, Yes to Cucumbers Conditioner, Fruit of the Earth Aloe Vera Gel, TRESemme Curl Locking Spray, Giovani Styling Gel, raw shea butter

What’s your hair care routine? (In a nutshell; I know most of us have pretty extensive hair care regimes): 

My basic routine is this:
-I shampoo about once a week with sulfate-free shampoo, then follow with silicone-free conditioner. I CO wash every time I take a shower.
-I clip my hair up and leave conditioner in during the whole shower, then detangle with a wide tooth comb as I rinse it out at the end of the shower.
-I scrunch raw shea butter into the ends, then "plop" with a t-shirt for 15 minutes or so, then air dry.
-When my hair is mostly dry, I smooth on aloe vera gel (or styling gel) and scrunch with the t-shirt. Sometimes I spray a light coat of hairspray on after it's dry.
-To refresh my curls, I use a little lime juice in water and spray my hair to dampen it and smooth out the frizz, then apply more aloe gel.

Many of us have one thing that we will never, ever do to our hair no matter what (i.e., bleach, curl, straighten, color) what is that one thing for you?: bleach

If you have a favorite hairstyle, what is it?: It would proba
bly be a low side bun.

What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received regarding taking care of hair?: Throw away
the brush.